While walking down Wisconsin a few days ago, I saw a woman who was wearing super tight and short shorts that didn't really do much to flatter her body, if you know what I mean. I was about to do my normal reaction: stare and form a judgmental thought or two (or ten) about her. But then, clear as the day, a voice popped into my head and said --
"If you are taking a second glance because you are going to be judgmental, it's best not to take a second glance."
And just like that, I didn't glance in her direction again, and this practice dramatically reduced my negative and unkind thoughts about this woman. Pretty simple, but profoundly renewing to my soul.
The two pictures above are from Easter brunch on Sunday. Dear friends and a goofball man who I happen to love.
Maybe I should back up and explain a bit more about why I had that breakthrough thought about judging others. The thing is, I sometimes have terrible thoughts about others. I mean, just plain mean. I really hate that I do this, except for one redeeming thing that comes from it -- it makes me so aware of my need for a Savior. I realize how quick I am to form opinions (mostly negative) about others, and that I do it to elevate myself and stroke my ego a bit.
It's so stupid.
So turning my eyes and not taking a second glance is a means to redirect my thoughts and not go down that wayward, judgmental road. It helps me to focus on and desperately see my need for the goodness and loving kindness of God, who saved me not because of my works (thank goodness,) but because of his mercy. (That is paraphrase of Titus 3:4-5. Read it. So, so good.)
Spring, I'm so glad you are here.